Self Love

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Sometimes we are so busy in our lives that we forget things. We forget to run an errand, forget to pick up the clothes at the dry cleaners, forget what we were just thinking about, forget to eat.... sometimes we are SO busy we even forget to take care of ourselves. 

I really noticed that I was forgetting to do a lot of things after I had my second baby. I was so concentrated on making sure everyone else was OK I forgot about me. I was tired. I was taking care of two kids and a husband. I was drained. I was physically, mentally, and emotionally drained. I wanted to do everything. Even after recovering from a c-section and dealing with a very colicky baby.... I wanted to do it all. I can't begin to tell you how many tears I shed during the first few months after baby number 2.

This is something not a lot of moms talk about, and they should. Do you know why? Because it's OK. It's OK to feel sad. It's OK to feel frustrated at yourself and the kids. It's OK to feel burnt out. It's OK to not do it all. It's OK to not be perfect. 

I was constantly telling myself how useless I was and that I could just never get it right or that I would never catch up to life again. I was being so hard on myself. I caused myself so much unnecessary pain.

I had to pull myself together for the sake of my kids. My two year old started to see how emotional I was getting. I had to start inflecting self love.  It was time I started taking care of myself so that I could take care of my family. If I didn't feel good and if I didn't love myself, how could I expect anyone else to?

This is when I realized I had to start letting things go. I had to start asking for help. I had to tell myself, "you can't do it all. It's OK to ask for help." I started asking my mom and mother in law to watch the kids on the weekends so I could get some rest. I started doing my nails, doing my hair and putting on some makeup again. I even recently discovered PaintNite (which is so much fun!). I just needed a day every so often to feel good about myself again. 

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It took some time, but almost 8 months later, I am almost at peace with myself. I still want to do it all... be a great mom, a great wife, a great business owner... but now I notice when I need to slow down. My mind is saying about 1000 things a minute and a part of me says, "you know what... let's go for a walk with the kids and get some fresh air." 

My best advice is listen to what you're saying to yourself. Because what you say to yourself affects what the universe brings back to you. Be sure to be kind to yourself because you are amazing and you're doing the best you can do. Take care of yourself first and everything else will come into place. You don't have to be a mom to implement self care and self love into your life. This is for everyone. Listening to positive affirmations on YouTube and reading inspirational quotes on Pinterest really helps to boost me up when I'm feeling down. 

Remember, you are not alone in how you feel. Remember to take time out just for you. 

Until next time my Beauties.

XoXo

 

Mommy Fears

How did our moms do it? How do women of more than two children manage? How am I going to survive with two kids? How will I manage to spend enough time with my oldest while attending to my infant? Will my oldest be jealous? Will he be upset with me? What am I going to do if they are crying for my attention at the same time?

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These are questions I often asked myself before I had my second son. The first few weeks were difficult…. No sleep, hardly eating, trying to breastfeed, and trying to survive with a toddler and a newborn was HARD WORK. I often felt bad and still feel bad for my oldest when my infant is crying and they both need me at the same time. It’s not easy. And as a mom, you feel helpless when you can’t attend to both kids at the same time. Am I still a good mom? Does my son still love me even though I can’t attend to him right away like he’s used to?

The good news about being a mom of more than one… it gets better. I was so nervous during my second pregnancy. Everyone told me how jealous my oldest will be of his little brother. They told me to buy gifts. Give my oldest tons of attention.

But you know what?

I started teaching my son that he would soon have a baby brother when I was about 8 months pregnant. He didn’t get it. When we came home from the hospital, I was dying to see my oldest. I missed him so much. When he came home, I was eager to show him his new sibling. My son, came to the bassinette and looked at his baby brother… he didn’t do or say anything. A few days passed and my oldest would check in on his baby brother every so often looking over him… still not saying anything. A couple weeks passed and my oldest started saying, “baby brother”.

Today, my oldest LOVES his baby brother. We can spend an entire day with my oldest showing his baby brother shapes, colors, numbers, etc. He loves to teach his baby brother everything he’s doing. My infant continuously smiles when he hears his big brother talk to him. My oldest loves giving kisses to his baby brother.

These boys are melting my heart everyday.

Some days are not easy. Some days are amazing. Some days are rewarding. I have so much love with my little boys and I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

There’s so much more to my new life and I can’t wait to share it with you.

Until next time!

Xoxo

Sacha Rona