How did our moms do it? How do women of more than two children manage? How am I going to survive with two kids? How will I manage to spend enough time with my oldest while attending to my infant? Will my oldest be jealous? Will he be upset with me? What am I going to do if they are crying for my attention at the same time?
These are questions I often asked myself before I had my second son. The first few weeks were difficult…. No sleep, hardly eating, trying to breastfeed, and trying to survive with a toddler and a newborn was HARD WORK. I often felt bad and still feel bad for my oldest when my infant is crying and they both need me at the same time. It’s not easy. And as a mom, you feel helpless when you can’t attend to both kids at the same time. Am I still a good mom? Does my son still love me even though I can’t attend to him right away like he’s used to?
The good news about being a mom of more than one… it gets better. I was so nervous during my second pregnancy. Everyone told me how jealous my oldest will be of his little brother. They told me to buy gifts. Give my oldest tons of attention.
But you know what?
I started teaching my son that he would soon have a baby brother when I was about 8 months pregnant. He didn’t get it. When we came home from the hospital, I was dying to see my oldest. I missed him so much. When he came home, I was eager to show him his new sibling. My son, came to the bassinette and looked at his baby brother… he didn’t do or say anything. A few days passed and my oldest would check in on his baby brother every so often looking over him… still not saying anything. A couple weeks passed and my oldest started saying, “baby brother”.
Today, my oldest LOVES his baby brother. We can spend an entire day with my oldest showing his baby brother shapes, colors, numbers, etc. He loves to teach his baby brother everything he’s doing. My infant continuously smiles when he hears his big brother talk to him. My oldest loves giving kisses to his baby brother.
These boys are melting my heart everyday.
Some days are not easy. Some days are amazing. Some days are rewarding. I have so much love with my little boys and I wouldn’t trade it for anything.
There’s so much more to my new life and I can’t wait to share it with you.
Until next time!